Ok so almost 3 months ago I had a bad fall off my horse which hasn't been in training since we got her because the original owner stopped training her right after we bought her and we were paying her to train her but she didnt. Anyways I decided to ride her for the first time since she was brought up to the barn, my dad lead me around on her just walking because I was to afraid she would do something if we went any further. Well the stable manager came in and started takeing controll like always and she pushed me to trot and of course stupid me I listened to her. While we were troting she kept trying to bolt but I stopped her and just before I was entering the center of the arena she took off with me on her and she turned sharp and I went flying into the boards and yeah. I was forced to get back on her after that but while I was on her I just got off and I was taken to the hospital. I had to get 5 x-rays, 2 on my neck 2 on my back and 1 on my but bone. I had to wear a neck thing for 6 days after that and I have a shoulder injury from the fall to and it hurts alot still even though I've been getting therapy on it or whatver you want to call it. But the thing is I want to go ride again but I'm scared out of my mind to, what if I fall again, what if she bolts, what if I can't stop her, what if it's worse then the last time?
I am terrified to get back on and the worst part if I'm teriffied to go see the horse. I haven't been to see her in almost three months I want to but I'm scared and I'm embarssed to show me face in the barn to.
Am I over reacting, because i think i am but I don't know what to do.
Advice on this?|||I certainly wouldn't be embarrassed as it doesn't seem like it would have even happened if the stable manager hadn't butted in and created the situation. Even if she hadn't, I still wouldn't be embarrassed, it happens to everyone that rides, anyone says that they have ridden a long time and they have never fallen or been bucked off is a double liar. Now to progress from her. I would not be getting back on a horse, any horse, if you haven't healed up from the last ordeal...if your shoulder is still very painful, you are not going to be paying full attention to what you should be doing anyway, you are going to be trying to protect your shoulder...so, having said that, I would suggest, while your shoulder is continuing to heal, have your horse ridden by a professional (not the barn manager who tried to rush things) but someone who will take it slow and easy and get your horse ready for you to ride, a person that will be with you for the first time or two that you ride again, to help you. It's too bad that the manager had to butt in and ruin what could have been a wonderful experience for you. Don't quit, just go about it slower and a little smarter, and don't be afraid to tell someone that you know or feel is putting you in danger, to stop.|||Just go to the barn and hang out a bit. Don't rush things, obviously it was a nasty fall and it sounds as if your horse needs more training before you try anything else with her. Just take everything slow, if you really want to ride then ride something safe and sensible until you feel upto doing more.|||I would sell your horse and forget about riding for a while. If you really want to keep riding, though, I would find the gentlest horse out there and take lessons on that horse. It sounds like you just weren't ready for the horse you had and she was just too much for you at that time. You need a lot more confidence and riding time on an extremely gentle horse. If you don't want to sell yours, maybe you could lease her to a more experienced rider and just keep learning off the gentle horse until you're ready to try your own horse again at a later date. Good luck to you!|||Forget about being afraid to go to the barn. Everyone falls. I fell 8 times in one day and could barely move later. The next weekend I got right back up. You have to overcome your fears.
Go back to the barn, and just visit the horse. You don't have to get on just go say hi to her and maybe groom her and just give her a little love.
As for getting back on her. You need to take a month of your time and lunge the horse. Teach her walk and then teach her trot. After she knows walk, trot, and stop you need to get on her. She won't bolt if she knows the command that YOU taught her. If you teach her the commands she will respect you and won't try to bolt with you.
IF she bolts, stay on her back or at least try. After she is manageable, work her but off. She can't keep getting away with it. If she bolts and you don't want to get on her then lunge her. If she keeps getting away with these stunts that shes pulling she will keep pulling them and giving you crap.
When you go back to the barn the first time again. I think you should turn her loose in the arena. Then, take a lunge whip and chase her with it.(About 30min.) Don't let her walk. Keep her in a trot or canter. She can walk when she lowers her head in respect. Once she lowers her head, stop chasing her and stand in the middle of the arena still. Let her be and just watch her for about 5-10minutes. Go up to her and walk her back in and give her a treat. This will imediatley show her your in charge and not playing games.
Be firm and strict with her. There is no monkey business. She bites you wack her nose and say NO loudly. She kicks you kick her back. (lightly) She bucks you get right back on and ride her 10x harder and longer. She just needs to learn whos in charge.
She was probably scared when you got on her and then sensed your fear.
Good Luck and I wish you luck|||Maybe just take some lessons or ride a quiet little pony/horse til you get your confidents back.
in the meantime send her to a trainer
when you get on her for the first time keep 1 rein shorter so if she bolts,bucks etc pull the rein you have shorter inwards so that it looks like you are turning her but make sure you do it right to your stirrup and just turn her in tight circles untill she calms down dont get off!
keep walking her around and if she does it again do the same remember to growl at her when she does this
oh and you can also try half halting
maybe get a better bit for her like a snaffle,pelham or a strongish type one that allows you to pull her up and control her easier remember horses can sence when you are scared
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You are not a horse trainer. Your horse needs training - get a trainer now.
This is not your fault OR the horses.
It sounds like she is NOT ready for a rider at your level - you had fear issues before the bolt. Next time LISTEN TO YOUR GUT and do not let anyone push you into doing anything you are not ready to do.
Stay off her back untill both of you are ready to take care of each other.
You need lessons on safe properly trained horses to get your confidence and ability improved.
But in the meantime you need to get to know this horse and work on a ground relationship that will later translate into a riding relationship.
Groom her to start - after turnout not on her way to turnout.
I would not advise you to lunge or chase her around with a whip...neither one of you are ready for this.
In time you should lunge her - after BOTH of you have been professionally taught HOW to lunge.
Perhaps consider the idea that this horse is not a suitable mount. A horse with more training and probably older is what I would suggest for a rider that is scared to the point of not going to the barn.
Hang in there and - not to be harsh - get your butt to the barn.
You did NOT fall off the horse - you were THROWN off.
Unless you have fallen off of a horse that is napping - you should never be embarrased.
No body is perfect!!!
Hugs
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take her out of her stall and groom her and make her feel comfortable.
Build it up gradually.
Then when you want your dad to walk you around again. put a note on arena door saying please don't come in unless emergency. Lunge her first and turn her out. well first turn her out then lunge her. Then she will be tired. And hopefully not do anything. but still have your dad lunge/walk around with you.|||I've had a few really bad falls off of my horse. On one of them I broke my back and didn't find out until three years later.
Having a bad fall was what stopped me from show jumping, because every single time I approached a jump I would get really scared and have a flash back of my fall. I still do ride a lot though, I just don't jump much any more.
It's totally normal to be afraid to get back on after having a bad fall, especially if you got hurt as bad as you did.
What I think you should do, is go and see your horse. There are a lot of reasons that she could have bolted on you. There could have been something that scared her, or maybe having the stable manager trying to coach you was stressing her out and making her nervous. Also, there could have been something about the arena you were riding in that she just didn't like. Also, check out your saddle and bridle. Maybe one of them wasn't fitting her properly or a strap was twisted. She might have been reacting because she was trying to get out of being in pain.
I highly doubt that she reacted just out of spite or to get rid of you.
Try taking her out on a lead for a walk with you, brush her, and spend some good quality time with her without riding her. Just watch how she reacts to her surroundings when you lead her away from familiar things. If she gets nervous, then that means that she needs to be taken out for walks more often. The more you take her out, the calmer she will be, and she will be less likely to bolt on you.
Just start slowly. You need to build your trust of her back up, and since you are new to her too, she needs to know that she can trust you as well. Spending time grooming her and taking her for walks, even if you don't ride will help you two bond and get to know each other. Also, bringing her an apple or carrot each time wont hurt either.
Once you start to feel comfortable being with her again, and trust her again, then little by little you will get back that urge to ride her.|||You need to get back on your horse. You don't have to get back on her first thing though, If you don't feel prepared to train her yourself you should find a reliable person to do it for you and then while she is being trained you should take lessons or ride an older horse that you know has been around the block and will be good. Everyone has falls, the other people at the barn won't laugh at you, they should understand. If you don't get back on your horse you may never and I'm sure you would regret it. Good Luck.|||Apart of riding is falling, and as a rider we take that risk.
You shouldn't be embarrassed, everyone falls - anyone who has anything to say at the barn has no room to talk, either they have fallen or it's coming.
At your barn do you have a school horse that you really trust? And you know that the horse will take care of you? If so i would highly recommend asking your trainer if you can ride that horse to get your confidence back in the saddle. Then maybe you can go back on a lounge line walking, then go back to the school horse, then go back to your horse and so on.
Everyone falls, it's the strength of the rider to get back in the saddle and not to give up on your riding, and your horse.|||First of all, if this were me, I'd send her through a bit more training before getting on again. I wouldn't be too embarassed to show my face in the barn, though. It happens to the best of riders, even. Look at what happened to Christopher Reeves. You're lucky to have gotten away with the injuries that you had. I would still see the horse, though. She was most likely scared too (can even pick up on your fear).
Either way...get back on that horse.|||i think it would be best to go get your mare professionally trained.
meanwhile to get you riding confidence back ride a quiet hpre that you now and trust, or just a quiet horse, and build your cnfidence back up on that horse /horses and then when your mare has had more training then think about jumping on her and riding her, it would probebly be better if you have a round yard available? ide her in their as it is smaller and less room for her to bolt.
hope i helped,
hope all goes well with you regaining your confidence.|||i think you should find a new trainer to work with you and your horse.You want a trainer who'll push you but still respect that you have a green horse and note details. You shouldn't feel pressured to overstep your boundries.
I find working on the ground with my horse is most helpful. By building a bond with your horse on a ground eye to eye level you learn what makes your horse nervous. You learn there quirks and its easy for you to help your horse overcome them or avoid them. If you become confident in her on the ground and she feels safe and unthreatened by you you'll have a more successful training and riding experience. Trust is everything in a horse. Look up Monty Roberts and his theories in Join-up.
oh, and if your not riding just your own horse ask a friend to ride with her, because you cant let a fear conquer you. it starts small but eventually it grows. Beat it before it takes away something as amazing as horses!!|||omg that sounds scary!!
don't be afraid of the horse. she didn't mean to hurt you, she was probably scared and confused and didn't know what she was doing if she hadn't been trained. it wasn't your fault you fell, but it also wasn't hers.
don't get yourself worked up and angry at your trainer for pushing you. that will only use energy for no reason. maybe it was irresponsible of her, but don't go blaming her either. falls like that happen, and it was only an accident nobody's fault.
if you are too scared to just jump into riding again, then just go to the barn and visit the horses and just ease yourself back into the routine. see if you can just walk around on a different, well trained, reliable horse for a while, before you get on your horse.
just relax, take a deep breath, don't worry. your horse can sense your fear and she will be more afraid. don't push her, and start training her again! i wouldn't say you are overreacting, because a lot of people are afraid of getting back on after they fall. its understandable, but you really got to just get up there and do it.|||You have no business on that horse right now. You probably never will now. I would perhaps get on her while someone is leading her one time to help get over your fear of her but that is about it. Then get an older horse that is well broke and stick with riding it until your confidence is back where it should be.
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